Miami is definitelty not a great place to make new friends. And I guess it is due to the actual set up of the city. It is a huge place and everything movement takes too long.
You really need to make an effort to work on your social life. Attend parties, go out a lot.. And that involves a lot of driving, which is both tiring and discouraging.
Another way to make friends is in your own condo. But people are not that friendly. You would never hear a "hello" in the morning elevator ride. People develop a sense of individualism and isolation. During the day, you dont see too many people socializing. Of course, as I worte in another post, there is no downtown or city center where to hang out and about, which makes interaction way more difficult.
There are not many enablers for social life. No neighborhood or "barrios".
And if you happen to be at a socializing place and start a conversation, the conversation themes are superficial. A great way to have fun that night and to make acquaintances, but not great to make new good friends.
I must say we have been lucky in finding good friends (despite the fact we have to drive 30 minutes to meet up with them). But comparing it to other places where we have lived, Miami ranks lower in the Friend-making scale.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
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I agree with you....
It seems like the building you live in does not suit you. Maybe you should look for a building with residents more similar to you?
To say that ALL of Miami is unfriendly is pretty harsh and not true. It is almost impossible to walk in my building without running into someone and have a 10 minute conversation just while you go get the mail.
In the elevator we are still finishing up our topic as the doors is closing between us.
Also as far as socializing out in the town, be careful of the more popular places where the crowd maybe mixed with alot of tourists that do not have plans to make longterm friendships.
Good luck.
No se en que parte de España has estado que la gente saluda en el ascensor. En España, o por lo menos Madrid y norte de Madrid, me parece mucho menos comun empezar una conversacion con alguien completamente desconocida como se hace aqui. No solo eso, se puede ligar con gente desconocida; en España mejor que sepan quien eres o quien conoces o como te apellidas porque si no te miran como si fueses raro.
En lo de superficial si que tienes razon. Es dificil encontrar a gente que sea algo culta y que tambien salga a divertirse.
Keyrat, I lived in Zurich, Switzerland, and they were more friendly. In Madrid, I have many more friends than here. Just yet... Give me some more time.
Chris, maybe its because my building is new. I hope it becomes more similar to your building
I'm also an European in Miami, and I have exactly the same problems as you've described...
I moved to Miami from Chicago two years ago. I feel incredibly isolated and lonely in this city; I never thought it would be like this. My neighbors avoid eye contact with each other at all costs, I am stunned by the general rudeness people display towards each other as they go about their daily routines. I am a very friendly person who has always been very outgoing, and yet in the past two years I have become somewhat of a loner.
I have lived here 27 years. I am 45 years old and gad alot of friends my 1st 15 years or so here. The place has changed. I am sitting here having lost contact with them all. Maybe it's me, but I love being around people. When I travel out of town I meet many people and I have found this to be one of the most isolating places when it comes to developing new friendships. I guess it's because everyone is so busy. A real lonly hectic place to live.
Hello!!! Iam Valeria from Argentina, I travel frecuently to Miami so I want to know a single man over 39 year old to make a frienship. What website do you recommend me to visit in order to know professional and executive people?
Thank you.
This is great info to know.
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